HOW MANY PARTNERS HAVE YOU HAD????

If your lover asks you;
''How many sexual partners have you had??''
Would you answer truthfully??

For some people the answer is as simple as say five or six or less (even then it's not an easy question to answer)the question gets harder to answer especially if the number is higher.
For instance if you've slept with  between fifty to say over two hundred people in your life....In my book that's not "multiple-sex partners"....that's a COMMUNITY!

So if in your case, its a COMMUNITY,do you tell the love of your life the truth(in the spirit of honesty)?

There's an old joke that goes like this;

One day  a guy asks his wife how many men she'd slept with before they met.
After thinking about it for a while,  she starts counting her fingers
"Ten?"her husband asked hopefully
She pauses for a bit.
Then she bends down and begins counting her toes.
"Fifteen.....Twenty???"her husband asks in shock.
Long silence.
There's an uncomfortable expression on her face.Then she opens her mouth and begins counting her teeth.
"JESUS!"screams her husband.

When she's done with her teeth,
She pauses again.
A shy and somewhat uncomfortable smile appears on her lips as she slowly......very slowly raises her hands and begins counting the strands of hair
on her scalp.
Her husband faints!

Not everyone can handle the truth!

Here's the scenario

Pastor Joe is a nice goodlooking guy in church.He is single and wants to get married.He has his eye on Sister Jennifer in the Choir.
Sister Jennifer is beautiful,pious,diligent and hardworking in church.
She also has an angelic voice that fires up praise and worship.

Anyway,Pastor Joe and Sister Jennifer seem to be getting along very well.Chemistry,attraction is intense blah,blah,

Now,Pastor Joe has made his intentions known to Sister Jennifer. She said yes with sooooo much excitement(if the pictures on facebook are anything to go by).The wedding date has been set, plans are underway etc.

Then the unthinkable happens
Rumours start to circulate around church about Sister Jennifer's Past.
It appears from the stories, that "Sister Jennifer",(back in the day)used to be very generous with her body.As the story goes, she's slept with a lot of men in Port Harcourt.

Now when Pastor Joe heard this, he was deeply troubled.
He confronted his bride to be and asked her if the rumours were true.
What she told him, troubled him more .
Apparently before she was Sister Jennifer, she used to be ''Endowed@Jenni-D-sxx machine''
As her former alias, she had a lot of "Clients" (male & female) who paid handsomely for the ''services'' she.rendered.
She used most of the money to put herself through school and start a business.
This was years ago" she reassured him
"I'm not that person any more"she said to him holding his hand
"I have Christ now!"
Pastor Joe is speechless,stunned and traumatised.
Could this really be happening ? his expression seemed to say.

Jennifer barely contained the pain she felt.
What sort of nonsense is all this?? she thought to herself.
Was there no escaping the past even when she' d found the love of her life??

They sat in silence for the longest of time

''How many?" Pastor Joe asked finally
How many what?"but even as spoke, she knew what he was asking.

"How many sexual partners have you had?"he asked finally and hating himself for doing so.

The tears from Jennifers eyes were streaming down her face silently, in large trickles.

After another long silence, she answers

".......less than a hundred...more than  fifty" she said finally.

As far as we know.....the wedding is still on hold.


But shouldn't the past just remain the past??? I mean if we love someone so much should the person's past matter so much??

There are two categories of people in the world,
There are those that believe in full disclosure,
"We shouldn't have ANY secrets. Tell me everything!!!" like an x would always say. Of course each time I played the "honesty'' card we always got in to a fight!
I realised quickly that not everyone who demands ''full disclosure'' can actually HANDLE ''full disclosure''.
''The truth is bitter!!" as they say.
Not everyone has the stomach for it.

And there are those who simply would rather not know;
"Ignorance is bliss" as they say
''what I don't know won't  hurt me"

Look, I'm no expert but I think that no two relationships are ever the same.
Personally full disclosure hasn't always worked out for me but that's not to say it can't for other relationships.

but I think people should tread lightly on the issue of honesty.(especially when it has to do with sexual history)
The truth is a blunt instrument but unlike most blunt instruments it should be used ......carefully.
Not every one can handle the truth..... no matter how desperately they tell you they can.
Your relationship is important so be wise.

life is a choice my friend,
Choose wisely
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