A friend of mine recently had an insane fight
with his wife over an sms he’d recieved from a female colleague. Heres what happened.
About a couple of days earlier, he’d bought a really nice fountain pen for this colleague of his on her birthday.Understandably, the lady sent him an sms expressing her gratitude. Harmless enough right? Well, his wife sure didnt think so.
In the style of a true seasoned CSI investigator/hacker,
his wife had unlocked his phone, and discovered the sms.
She basically started a riot after that.
Being a very close friend of the couple, I didn’t see what all the fuss was about.Well, that was until I saw the sms.It went like this;
“Your Pen is very nice.I am enjoying it very well.Thank you!” .As I read it, It dawned on me that she’d mistakenly typed “pen” and “is” as one word.
Enough said!
Anyway, the question is, should couples (married/unmarried) have access to each other’s phones?
This is a slightly controversial topic.I have asked several people (men/women)this question.Its just crazy the sort of responses they’ve given me.I will show you a few.
* “If my wife touch my phone I go slap am well-well!”
*”I and my husband go through each other’s phones all the time.Its no big deal!”
*”Biko,Prevention is better than cure.I must know what is in his phone at all times!”
*”Phone passwords are not allowed in my house.Period!”
*”Trouble no good.Make she no touch my phone abeg! “
*One of the major elements of a relationship is trust.I trust her, she trusts me.Our phones aren’t an issue!”
*”Mbok, I don’t want high BP.Wetin eye c naim dey spoil mind.He can keep his phone!”
Here’s my take on this.No two relationships are exactly the same.It depends on what’s comfortable for the two of you.Personally I don’t think there’s anything wrong with couples having access to each other’s phones.But like I said, it depends on the two of you.I’m very big on Honesty and trust in relationships sha.I’m also big on privacy too.Especially if your dating or married to the equivalent of an NSA field agent who’s always on the look out for drama.
Where there’schoice s to phones or not as long as there’s honesty and trust between us, it’s all good.
Like everything else in life it’s a choice.So choose wisely.Enough said.
What’s your opinion?
Life's a choIce my friend
choose wisely
Enough said
Comments are welcome......
Spammers on the other hand, would be shot, run over with my car, thrown off a cliff,
hung by their toe nails, and made to watch me do the MAKARINA....... in slow motion.
I'm just saying
I like going through my fiance phone ooo.
ReplyDeleteas long as he has no problem with that, grt.
DeleteI'm a very curious Philosopher, though I know when to respect and mind myself.
ReplyDeletelol. enchanted the curious philospher
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ReplyDeleteIt is no big deal,I and hubby goes to each others phones.
ReplyDeletetnx for ur comment. pls keep visiting.
DeleteIn my Opinion, boundaries are important.
ReplyDeleteWhen there's trust in a relationship, the need to find reasons to distrust doesn't come up because truth be told, snooping hardly is a good idea. It mostly happens to find incriminating stuff.
i dont think using ur spouse's phone is snooping. snooping is done in the secret. using ur spouse's fone shld nt b a prob, except yall hv stuff to hide.
DeleteYou don't just stumble on a questionable text message in your spouse's phone when you need it to make a phone call or send an sms That can only happen when you do the extra looking which I consider snooping
Deleteyes you can. especially wen messages pop up on home screen. lol
DeleteIn my Opinion, boundaries are important.
ReplyDeleteWhen there's trust in a relationship, the need to find reasons to distrust doesn't come up because truth be told, snooping hardly is a good idea. It mostly happens to find incriminating stuff.
In my Opinion, boundaries are important. Besides when there's trust in a relationship, the need to find reasons to distrust because doesn't come up because truth be told, We go through our partners phones to look for incriminating stuff when we do.
ReplyDeleteits all abt trust
ReplyDeleteTrue.... Very true
DeleteTeam snoop, but seriously most times it doesn't end well, but 4 u not to b hurt just keep off ur spouse phone
ReplyDeletePersonally,I wouldn't go tru my boyfriend's phone not because I think hez got nothing to hide bt to save myself so much drama. I noticed I get myself worried ova lil things so going tru his phone would just mean me looking for my trouble....he could go tru my phone anytime coz I've gt absolutely nothing to hide n he wouldn't mind me going tru his phone but I just wouldn't
ReplyDeletePs: itz my first tym reading dis blog n itz kept me bzy all day.....U've gt rili nyz right ups Opus, kip it up
Thanks dear
DeleteLol! Sometimes i dont even know where my own phone is not to talk of having "TIME" to go thru my spouse's phone.
ReplyDeleteWhen u are busy with 3kids, a job, a small budding business, wifely duties, home keeping (cooking, mkt runs etc), salon n gym appointments, u barely have time to go thru your hubby's phone except to use it to dial your phone when u realise u haven't seen the darn thing in hours.
But every woman has instincts though. U can always suspect if DH is sneaking around. Usually
Ur from stella's blog right, I noticed your DH,lol. Anyways I have never thought of snooping, because I trust a lot. I personally don't see anything wrong with it, but haven't actually done it. Different strokes for different folks
DeleteWhy keep what you don't want him/her to see on your phone. Only the guilty hide. It wont be any issue if either has nothing to hide!
ReplyDeleteIn all my one year 3months of dating my ex" I never went thru his phone. A guy was asking me out a week ago I went thru his phone, loo behold, the exact thing he was telling me, he was telling another girl...lwkmd
ReplyDeleteI told him to go meet those other ladies his heart lies with, because it's not mine at all...I don't like drama
I'll all for checking o. Better to be in the know than in the dark. And yea, he's allowed to check mine too. That "what you don't know can't hurt you' BS doesn't fly for me.
ReplyDeleteIts a personal choice really. I believe a man/woman that wants to cheat will cheat. Some even keep a separate phone their spouse has no clue exists in the car. I don't bother snooping, just keep your own end of the deal aka zip up!
ReplyDeleteSure word.
DeleteNothing to hide, have access as much as you want, no shaking.
DeleteWell, you can go through the phone, nothing to hide. Sometimes, text messages hold meanings that are not intended.
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